My new e-course is live and humming along for 2018. The class is called Fit 2018 and I have a story to tell you about this class that goes something like this: I wasn’t going to do it this year. Here’s why.
There are two reasons, but the first being the feeling that I wasn’t really walking the walk and showing my students the power of a before and after.
How can I inspire people when I don’t really have any major accomplishments to share? No 5Ks run. No pants sizes dropped. No physical manifestations of self care. No one to say, “WHOA, DUDE! You look so… fit!”
The second reason was that I was tired of trying to do something that I clearly wasn’t doing. I was tired of always striving to do better. I was tired of caring about the stuff. In other words, my attitude was in the crapper on self care.
Then I broke my hand.
The day after it happened I had two choices: 1) Feel sorry for myself, eat like shit and hunker down while waiting for the healing to begin, or 2) Deal with it and make both bone and body healing nutrition a priority, as in, pronto. I chose the latter.
Knowing that exercise was kind of off the table (swelling and throbbing made even walking an issue), I chose nutrition. And I’m going to be really clear about what that means because that word is not code for dieting. It mean no junk food. No sugary crap. Nothing that would only add to the inflammation in my body which in turn would hamper the healing of my hand. (And ladies, you know that sugar is in wine, and bread, and all those foods we sometimes crave aside from donuts, right?)
I just knew that my body needed me to step up and be responsible. No pity party. No sweet indulgences to make me feel better. No wine buzz to take the edge off of my life.
I just needed to, well, for lack of a more clever term, do what was needed.
What is needed? This has been a recurring theme in my life for years but not one that I’ve always embraced with my whole heart. It comes from years of therapy and my difficulty in really seeing myself accurately in all areas of my life. Work is one of my strong areas. Personal and relationships? Those are not as strong and so I work to make them better. Self-care falls squarely into the personal category.
But the injury felt like a thud to my skull. As in, a what the hell are you doing, Cath? kind of thud. Do you want to be falling apart in your 50s? You’re only just a year in, so can we try to do a bit better? Please?
But one part of better, dare I say the most important part of better, is my attitude towards things for which I am responsible. Top of that list? My self care.
Better is not code for weighing less. Better is not code for life will automatically improve with 20 fewer pounds. Better is about me being a full-grown adult who does stuff that helps my life and health, not stuff that harms it.
I think breaking my hand, strangely, was one of the best things that could’ve happened to me last year. It shook me up in a good way and it showed me that this physical body of mine is the only one I get. I can be continually disappointed with it, judge it and wish somehow I was born with a first-rate metabolism, or I can be grateful that I have it in the first place and show it some love. Some real love.
Real love is all about truth and doing what is needed. Doing what is needed is not some cheap fix. It’s working to understand that I get this one life to live, so I need to figure out my shit and do right by it. So that’s my goal today and every day. And that is no small feat.
Will I succeed every day? Probably not. I’m not a robot. I’m not perfect. But I am willing to look at the areas where I need work, and people, it’s in my head, not in my waist size. And yeah, it’s taken me a while to make that connection. But it’s an important distinction. It’s a life changing one.
I also keep showing up with this class because I love to teach it, I love to try to motivate people, and I love the community it creates each year because I love seeing women who want to take care of themselves in a real way. I also like making money doing this kind of thing for a living. Because my students keep coming back and put their trust in my products, I am able to keep doing this. You have no idea how lucky that makes me in this world of small, crafty businesses.
Which reminds me of another reason I keep doing this: gratitude. It’s funny how when you focus on what you have versus what you want to get, you can have a seismic shift in your perspective on pretty much everything. I am grateful that I get a chance to be here and do this.
And you’re invited to join me this year.
Yes, you get a lot of ways to track your story, but the biggest takeaway, in my opinion, is putting yourself in a place where you are focused for at least part of the time on your self care, and then to work on leaving the harsh judgments behind.
We ain’t got time for that negative crap. One life. You know?
I say let’s work toward better in a real way and see what shakes out.
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